The Line In Between

The Line In Between

Live Every Day with Purpose

by Siobhan Becker and Michelle Bense

When we die, on our tombstone or plaque it will read the month and year we were born, followed by a line, and then the year we died. What do we do with the line—the line in between? That line in between is our opportunity to live a life filled with purpose.

Recently, there was a story about a young lady named Amanda, who committed suicide. When one reads or hears such news, there is always a shock, and we always ask, “Why?” No one can answer this question, and the one person who can, no longer has the ability to do so. We are left with emptiness, sadness and loss. The author of the story—a young man in his early twenties—decided to not get stuck on the emotions, but instead to learn the lesson that life is short and to be treasured. What a gift to learn this so early, so young.


Living life to the fullest is very important, which includes saying, “I am sorry”, forgiving and loving family and friends. Our awareness that life is not permanent is heightened in the face of tragedy and the little things do matter more. We pay attention to the moments, where we feel happy, at peace, joy, strong, inspired.

Honoring “the line in between” ought to be something we do daily. We can begin doing so at any time. As long as there is no date on the other end of the line, we are still here solid and, God willing, physically and mentally able. We can wake early and lie there thinking, completely caught up in our head, but we are wasting mind power on the wrong thoughts. All that energy could be used for something useful: our purpose, our goal-driven tasks and choices for the day.

Each day we have choices. Perhaps the biggest choice we have is whether we decide to live our purpose, live on purpose, live in the moment. If only it was simply automatic each day—programmed into our minds that we are here for a reason—and we are not lying in bed thinking bad thoughts about a day that has already passed.

If one person can read this and be inspired, that is already progress. Let us remember this wonderful girl Amanda, who we did not even know, by living our lives mindfully. Let us start honoring “the line in between” by living life on purpose and choosing to place our focus where it does the most good.

Siobhan Becker is a life coach and the owner of The Lavender Group in West Hartford. Connect at

Michelle Bense is a freelance editor and writer for Natural Awakenings magazines across the country. Connect at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it .

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